My dad is an alcoholic ..how do i deal with him?

hes retired 2 yrs back. hes addicted to alcohol doesnt have any hobby or intrests except food sleep and alcohol.hes responsible as far as duties and finances go .. but hes getting worse. my parents are increasingly having a dysfunctional relationship. he creates a scene .sometimes falls down...loves to make drama many times in front of known people on purpose. hes extremely careful not to do it in front of his friends or brother though.hes making life difficult for my mom. mom doesnt have much of a voice and only confronts him when its a boiling point. hes hit her for speaking against him before. hes always been this dominating ,self praising mcp . only good part about him is that hes practical and so far responsible.i cant stand him anymore. i just want my mom to be happy. i am not earning at present else i would have moved out of the house.

he asks my mother to leave the house evrytime she raises her voice. the pattern repeats ... what do i do. i dont even want to speak to him.My dad is an alcoholic ..how do i deal with him?
buy him an 18 packMy dad is an alcoholic ..how do i deal with him?
well your dad is similar to mine. You could try counseling for him. It didn't really work with my dad but I would give it a try
YOU need to confront your own father...tell him in a stern and assertive matter that his asshole behavior needs to end. Stick up for your mom, and back her up. You keeping silent is showing him that you don't care, like his behavior is acceptable when it's not.

be aggressive. raise your voice and get his attention

How old are you?
Alanon is good. Maybe you and your Mom can get out together? Being practical and responsible does not include being a drunk and hitting people. You are both better off without him!
tell your uncles and other family members. they may be able to talk to him. an intervention may also be good.
sorry but i go with alcoholic center..... this is no longer somthing that is in ure hands he needs profesional help...
I think this site will have more beneficial advice :

http://psychcentral.com/
look.... maybe i can't understand how you feel and how's the situation in your house, but from what you have described ,yours and your mother lives are not good,because of your farther. my suggestion is to talk to your father(at a time that he is not drunk,so that he can understand what you are saying)and say to him that you love him(as you do,even if you sometimes want to leave him)and that you are very sad because makes you and your mother feel awful with his behavior . you have to know also that your father is a human and have feelings, maybe some situation ,when he was younger, made him like that,you don't know what he have faced. approach him and talk to him. make him feel comfortable and hug him.i know that it's hard to take the advantage and talk with him and that he treated very bad but you have to try because maybe with that way will the things be better and because he is your father,don't forget that,and he is the one who ''helped'' your mother to you come to this world. although, if nothing becomes better ,you should ask some advice from an expert , which will be surely very good.



i hope that i helped you, even little.....

the thing that you should know and not be is selfish.

have patience and be strong!
He's just trying to be like Britney, he'll grow out of it
break his fingers one by one...slowly..
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I think he needs some psychiatric treatment because the way he is behaving it seems that its not because of alcohol but some other reason.
try getting other family members involved - and you and your mom should try an alanon place because they can help you cope - your dad maybe depressed because he is not working anymore a lot of men feel worthless if not working try talking to him and see if he would either try a new hobby or a part-time job
So sorry you are going through such a horrible experience. You should go to some alanon meetings. The family members of other abusers that you will meet here will not only give you support, but actually enlighten you on steps you can take to stop this. These people have been there and done that, they are full of information you will be able to use. They will also be knowledgeable of different legal actions you may be able to take.

Again so sorry. Your dad will have to want to change. This may not happen unless something life changing occurs, such as your mother actually packing her things and leaving. This does work occasionally, especially in the beginning. It sounds like your dad may be depressed, nothing to do all day after retiring. Most people do not know that alcohol will make depression worsen. They just know it is a quick fix. In the long term, as you have witnessed, everything gets worse.



Call alanon today. The help is there. Do this before your mother is permanently injured from his physical abuse. (the abuse does get worse. She will be reluctant to tell you all the detail. You are her son, she doesn't want to worry you, or start a fight between you and your dad.) Best wishes to you and your family.
Tell someone about it right away especially since he's abusive maybe you and your mom should go live with some other family members i remember when my dad would drink he would get real agressive i was always afraid he was going to really break down and do something stupid call the cops if he hits your mom again and if they dont help take a video of it so you have evidence

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