Advice (Professional or Experienced) on Dealing With Alcoholic Inlaws?

Thanks to everyone for helping answer my other question. This one is different. I like my sister-in-law when she is sober, but her alcohol problem is becoming our problem. She lives with her boyfriend, their 3 kids, and one of the kids girlfriends. Thats ages 12, 15, 16, 20 for the kids. They live next door to us. I have had to report them to CPS for a number of things including allowing and encouraging the minor kids to use drugs, drink alcohol with them. They party it up, then harass us to no end to borrow food, cooking oil, laundry detergent, toilet paper, etc. We have cut off my mother-in-law over her alcohol issues, how do I set some boundaries here. We have a one year old who I don't want to grow up seeing this as ';normal.'; I love my neice and nephews, but think I am becoming an enabler. How can I say no when the kids are hungry, and need soap to wash school clothes? CPS isn't helping monitor them. Help anyone with real experience or expertise. Thanks in advance :)Advice (Professional or Experienced) on Dealing With Alcoholic Inlaws?
You and your husband have some very 'difficult choices' to make ... and you should 'sit down and talk about what you can and should do' about your 'in-laws' and their 'alcohol' (and drug) problems. You are becoming an 'enabler' because you are 'providing the basic necessities' for the 'children' because their mother IS NOT doing that. If CPS is not 'helping monitor the situation' then you have to decide 'how far you will go' to MAKE THINGS BETTER FOR THOSE KIDS. If you can, I think you should go to court and 'sue for custody' of them (you will need HARD EVIDENCE that their mother is 'drinking heavily' and is not 'providing properly' for the kids ... and you and your husband and son should MOVE AWAY from where you are living, to a place where you are not 'exposed daily' to the kids and the 'problems' in that part of your 'extended family' before your son is any older ... but 'what you do' in the end is going to be 'decided by you and your husband together.'Advice (Professional or Experienced) on Dealing With Alcoholic Inlaws?
I say keep helping them with the food, maybe invite the younger ones over for dinner on a regular basis. Your stable sane lifestyle will be a good example for them to see. Could the 12 year old come live with you? Those kids really need to be taken out of that home, it sounds so so dysfunctional, to put it mildly, especially if they are allowing the kids to do drugs. Personally I think your 1-year old will be fine, as long as they aren't in your home doing what they are at home.
You can not help an alcoholic, but you must help the children. Talk to Child Protective Services again, make sure you take down every persons name you spoke to. It may take for you to speak to the Director of the Agency to see results. Don't lend anything to them. Have the children over and make sure they have at least one warm meal a day. If you can't do this, you need to help this children to get out of the hell they are forced to live in. The only way most alcoholics find help, they have to loose everything before they seek it. Alcoholism is a decease.
CPS dont care if the parent is giving the kids drugs. However if you tell them you saw her spank one, the entire police force, a SWAT team and every employee from CPS will be on her doorstep in a matter of minutes. They will monitor the kids if their version of abuse is happening.