I think my mums an alcoholic...?

My mum drinks every night, not just one or two...she goes out to the local pub and drinks anything from 4-10 pints in a couple of hours,

i can tell shes not happy with her life, i'm constantly putting her to bed because shes that wasted she can't stand up.

i started uni last year and i had to defer my place around christmas because my mum was getting very ill and thin - i blame the alcohol, since shes the only one in the house she can get away with it.

i'm going back to uni in September, and i am really scared that she is going to get worse, i don't want to put my education on hold any more but she has no idea i quit because of her.

my dad used to beat her up but they divorced 5 years ago. i can tell shes not happy with life, both my parents were heavy drinkers when i was little and its all ive ever known,

can anyone give me any advice on how to deal with an alcoholic who doesn't admitt they have a problem,



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Hi! My mom was an alcoholic too. So was my brother in law. My mom died slipping and falling breaking her hip at a pub entrance door. My brother in law was 37 and drank himself to death. Its pretty hard. If they don't want to correct themselves, its pretty darn tough. I took care of my mom 4 months at a time and she would always manage to find someone to buy her a drink. You can talk to her and remind her you love her and that you will be there if she ever decides to go to AA or something. Keep suggesting it but, until they decide on their own, there is not much you can do. It is a process and sometimes succesful. It can take a lot out of you, so be careful not to let yourself get drained too low!I think my mums an alcoholic...?
discuss things with her, tell her about uni and what the alchol is doing to her. try to get her help like a talkline or something.
Try speaking to a counsellor, they might have some good info on what to do. Also Alcoholic's Anonymous - they are not just there to help alcoholics, they are there to help people like you too. They might be best for offering advice for you.



Alcoholism isn't about how much you drink - it's if you are dependant on alcohol, which your mum sounds like she is. I hope things work out for you or you find someone to help you. You shouldn't have to carry this burden on your own.
It is up to your mother to get the help she really needs, all you can do is pick up the pieces I am afraid. talk to her and see if she will accept help.
Your mother needs help, but only she can initiate it...you could try for an intervention if that kind of thing is available to you....If she isn't ready to change and help herself, no matter what you do, it won't make a difference. Try Alanon organization if available...You need to go back to school and take care of your life...get some therapy through your guidance department....Tell mom that you love her very much, that you want her to stay alive, but that you won't be around to watch her kill herself (which is what she's doing really). You could find some information on alcohol rehabs and give it to her, but it is really her choice. Good luck...stay strong.
watch this show called ';intervention'; its about alcoholics and drug users getting help, its a documentary.



it gives a lot of helpful things i think

watch one with alcohol, the end is where they get help and stuff.



BEST OF LUCK!
It's best to get advice from professionals who have experience with this sort of thing.



If you are in the United States there is a program called Al-Anon, that helps family members of alcoholics. I think they also have services in other countries too. If you go to their ';About Us'; page there is a link for International sites.



http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/about.htm…
I appreciate it is particularly difficult to consider not staying with your Mum but I really think that you have to consider doing it. If you keep deferring your degree course it will become increasingly difficult for you to go back to full time education. I did this - for rather different reasons - and regretted it later on.



You need a solution for your Mum and I think that a visit to your GP and Citizen's Advice - with a view to finding a suitable Counsellor - would be a start. You could also contact Alcoholic Anonymous and ask their advice - they may know ways to encourage your Mum to start admitting her need for help and get her to join.



Your Mum also has a debilitating disease - I suppose she smokes and is still doing that too - which will make it increasingly difficult for her to walk. She may even need a wheelchair etc. So also try Social Services - they may have a way of supporting you.



Also what about other family? Do you have brothers and sisters, does she have brothers and sisters? Anyone who might help you .... by helping your Mum.



You are obviously a very genuine young lady trying to do the right thing by your Mum and I do hope it doesn't derail your life too much more.



Good luck
Until your Mum admits she is an alcoholic, has a problem, there is not much you can do. Can you speak to her GP? Anyone you can talk to at the surgery? You need support too.

You can't be expected to put your own life and career on hold, you deserve that chance and shouldn't be dragged down.

Tough Love is advocated for addicts, not an easy option, people may criticize, but you deserve happiness and health, freedom from stress and guilt.
i know how you feel babe, my mother died 5 years ago because of exessive drinking, and it broke my heart that i couldn't help her, i was only 10 years old, and i'm 15 now. and i still regret not helping her. she's so lucky to have a caring, and most loving daughter like you. i think she could be depressed about your dad beating her? it can always haunt you and get you back in the long run. i think the diagnosis is quite shocking too. but you really don't need to put your education on hold because of this. she really needs help, so before you go back, take her to the doctors right away, and just explain about how she reacts and stuff, he may say its depression, or such, and refer to the alcohol anonymous, the sooner this gets sorted, the better, please dont risk losing your mum like i did. good luck.
I think you need to join that group that helps family members of alcoholics deal with this.



The thing is, you're putting your life on hold to allow her indulge in her addiction, and that's not good for you. You shouldn't have to look after her like she's a child, she's a grown-up and should be able to look after herself.



Blame the alcohol by all means, but remember too that your mother CHOOSES to drink herself blotto every night. And you CHOSE to defer your university to look after her while she's getting blotto.



You can ask the social services for help, too. I think your mother needs to stop drinking, to be honest. It's one thing that she ruins her own life, but it's not good that she's ruining yours too.
i have experienced this in my own family, and unfortunately there is nothing you can do unless she wants to help herself.



you need to tell her how her drinking is affecting your life and you need to make it clear to her that it is not fair. you are trying to finish school and get on with your life and the one person who should be supporting you is unknowingly holding you back.



do you have any siblings? if you do, make sure they voice their opinions to your mom too. if not, explain to her that you have nobody else to help you help her.



you have to make sure she realizes what is on the line: maybe your trust and confidence in her parenting skills, or her as a person; your education; your relationship with your mother; her own life, whether it be work, home life, relationships, finance, etc.



keep in mind that after you talk to her she might be angry first before she gets better. you may need to get her professional help too, but she will have to admit she has a problem first.

the hard thing is that with alcoholics, they see alcohol as a solution, not the problem.



good luck.
she needs help, the price of alcohol is going up, how wll she afford it ? contact nat west and get a loan to help her continue the drinking,, thanks