Friday, November 19, 2010

How can i deal with alcoholic parents? HELP i'm 14.?

My mom is turning into an alcoholic. We moved into her boyfriend's house about a year ago and i really consider him as my own dad, he loves me and i do aswell.



He drinks alot, he can't go a day without alcohol and cigarettes. My mom used to only drink on special occasions when she was single, but now since we've moved in with him,she's drinking the same ammount as he is.



What annoys me ,is that mom doesn't listen or make changes when i tell her how i feel. They both go on about how they are 'struggling' with money, (i know they are) yet, they spend more than $100 a fortnight on alcohol.



Ive made a decision that i'm not going to drink when i'm older. because i don't want to be anything like them,



Sometimes they drink drive aswell , with me and my 12 year old brother in the car. my stepdad uses the excuse ';i know whats going on even if ive had a bit to drink'; and ';i take driving seriously if ive drank a bit'; this annoys me, because they could kill someone!



My little brother is allowed to drink a shot glass of that wine/port stuff before bed, and he relys on it to ';make him sleep';



THIS ISNT A GOOD EXAMPLE FOR US! arh. its stressing me out.How can i deal with alcoholic parents? HELP i'm 14.?
You are being neglected and slightly abused. Your brother is turning into an alcoholic already, depending on it for sleeping. You should turn them in to human services, or whatever you have in your country for neglect. They should never drive you around when drinking anything. One drink could cause delayed reactions. I feel so sorry for you and your brother.How can i deal with alcoholic parents? HELP i'm 14.?
you're too young to have to deal with this mess. do you have any supportive relatives ,a social worker ,anyone who is trustworthy?this is wrong and dangerous especially your baby brother. it's a lot to ask of you but get help .. You're a good girl always take care of yourself.
Talk to a counselor
Call 411 ask the operator for Child Protective Services for your town.Tell them you need help.Tell them your story.
When your little brother is drinking a glass of port wine, give him a cuban cigar to go with it.
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FIRST OF ALL



start REFUSING to get into the vehicle with

either of them when they have been drinking !!



i don't know about where you are, but drinking and driving is a serious offence where i am.....

you have EVERY RIGHT to refuse to get into a vehicle with a drunkard.....even if they are your parents....

obviously they don't ALWAYS no what's right !!!



secondly- if your mother will not listen to you,

then you need to talk to someone who will......



guidance counsellor/teacher at school,

a neighbour, another family member--maybe your

dad (if he's in the picture), or your grandparents, maybe a favourite aunt or uncle.....



FIND SOMEONE to talk to.....



i give you OODLES of KUDOS for the decision that you made (not going to drink when you get older.....)

i grew up watching my parents drink ALL the time too, and said the same thing....

(i do not drink, other than the social drink about once every 2 or 3 yrs)



and here i sit 25 yrs after i've moved out, telling you to stay strong (for yourself and your little brother),



and FIND SOMEONE to talk to :):)



Good Luck Darlin'
First of all you should refuse to get into a vehicle when someone has been drinking is driving.



As far as getting mother and her boyfriend to listen to you, it isn't going to happen. I work in a Halfway House for addicts and alcoholics. They won't quit drinking until they realize they have a problem. I have read some of the other answers and some people gave really good advice. Talk to someone in child protection. Your brother needs to get help also. This is a serious problem for you and your family. You need to get help for yourself and your brother. The adults will more than likely come around when they realize what has happened.



Sometimes it is something so drastic like children being taken away from the county or state that makes them realize how they have been behaving.



Don't stress to much hun, you are too young to be dealing with this and letting it get to you. Let an adult take care of it. Your job is to notify the proper authorities and let them deal with it.
Alanon or Alateen ..... support groups for you, Police Report for the parental units ....



Good Luck !
first your mom has a gf now a bf? wow

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