Friday, November 19, 2010

Married and lonely. how to deal with an alcoholic and seaman husband?

Only one person in the world that's going to make you happy and be sure your satisfied with your life and that's YOURSELF! you need to care about yourself more then he does.Married and lonely. how to deal with an alcoholic and seaman husband?
Did he become an alcohol after the wedding vows? No



You chose to marry an alcoholic, and an alcoholic he will remain for the rest of his life. Oh, there is a VERY slight chance he may move away from the bottle. . . but his personality will ALWAYS be an alcoholic. The odds of a substance abuser doing a 180 are slim and none, and Slim's out of town.



Lonely? That is something only you can do something about. What are you lonely for? Another person in your presence? Then spend time with your girlfriends, or with family members. Join a club or a church. I cannot believe that you don't have some sort of hobby. . .well, this is the time to enjoy that hobby.



Enroll in a class; either just something fun, or if you're more ambitious, enroll to get your degree.



Do you have a job? If not, get one. That will definitely take up a lot of your time, plus giving you additional income that you can sock away.



You did not indicate if you have children . . . however, if you're that lonely, I doubt that you do since they are a 24/7 job.



It is your responsibility to fill the hours of the day. . . make your choices responsibly and do the right thing.







Married and lonely. how to deal with an alcoholic and seaman husband?
Ever hear of the ';Dear John'; letter. He's the one who joined the sea going forces not you. Your life has been put on hold and you don't like it. Neither would anyone else. Or get off your *** and start working at. Many sailors stay in contact with there families daily via the internet. And it goes both ways. Hell, a buddy I was stationed with showed me an mp3 video clip taken with a digital camera that was emailed to him. That's all he thought about for weeks and couldn't stop talking about it. Ever think he drinks because he's lonely and misses you too? Email him a sexy picture (topless) of you. Nothing raunchy and see what happens. Life is what YOU make it don't wait on anyone else to bring you happiness.
find a hobby, travel somewhere near with ur girlfriends, go out with girlfriends who are married and lonely. Remember your husband is out there working for money for family.
Find a balance for yourself. Have/make more friends %26amp; enjoy yourself when he is away...
Join a support group. There are plenty of support groups for you out there.
Look for remedy to get rid of his habits if not possible, he himself
Divorce him. Find a new man.
go find you a good lover........go out of town......have fun!

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