Mom's an alcoholic.. How to deal?

My Mom is a raging alcoholic. I say raging, because she gets sooo angry with me and my siblings when she drinks! She's a single Mom, and I honestly feel for her, but it's getting out of hand. Her health is at risk now, and am only in my first year of college and need to worry about grades right now! My 4 other siblings are also off at college, starting new lives! It makes it hard to get together, and do something.



Does anyone have any advice? It's very difficult to talk to her about it too, because she gets so mad when we bring it up. Mom's an alcoholic.. How to deal?
I have always heard that the person has to want help first. You can't make her get better, may be she needs help with depression, but again you can not make her get help. Some times people have to hit bottom before they want to get help. I am sure it is hard to see her like she is, but if she just gets mad when you try to talk to her, just let her be. Tell her if she ever wants help you will be there for her. So she will know you care and are worried about her, and she will know you are willing to help her when ever she is ready for help. Other than that l don't know what else you can do. just go on with your life, and wait for her to want the help you have offered. some times the harder you push the farther away they go, so let it be her to come for the help.

God bless and keep her safe until she is ready for the help she needs.



Mom's an alcoholic.. How to deal?
think of why she is drinking so much there has to be something that is depressing her try to find out and if you do try to fix it
May be consult a doctor. But bravo, you are a great daughter.
ring the jeremy kyle show he will sort her out

you and your siblings will get the chance to tell her exactly how you feel

plus she will get the Professional help she needs

good luck if you choose to do this

hope all goes well
You can't fix that. Your mother's behavior is NOT your fault. Her choices are NOT your fault. But you might consider that part of what's depressing her might be that all of her kids have gone off to college and, possibly for the first time in many years, she's alone, or if not completely alone (if she's remarried, etc.), at least she may feel her self-identification as ';a mom'; threatened. They call it ';empty nest syndrome.'; This is NOT your fault.



However, you might ask your siblings to call her on a regular basis. With five of you, if you each chose a different day of the week and called her weekly, she'd rarely have more than one day go by without a call. That might help cheer her up. (Or not, it might annoy some people; you'll have to decide that.)



You say she's angry at all five of you. A lot of expressed anger masks unexpressed fear. Maybe she's afraid of losing you. But remember, this is NOT your fault.



You need to find somebody who can help you help her find the help she needs. :-) Have you looked into AlAnon? It might help to talk to others in your situation, but also, they might be able to advise you in how to help her find help.



good luck!