Tuesday, November 16, 2010

How to deal with an alcoholic brother in law?

my sis in law has 5 kids with him and has been drunking consistantly for the eight yrs of being with him. me personly think he is a waste of space and a total looser. Am worried this will brush off on my nephews. This guy just does not want help. How to deal with an alcoholic brother in law?
There are no way to help a person who does not want to help themselves. However, you can talk to them and convince to undergo treatment tell him just for his children.How to deal with an alcoholic brother in law?
go to Alanon @ karen alcoholics anonymous dosent provide support for families of alcoholics , thats alanon
Alcoholics are horrible.......When you see your nephews, just remind them that drinking is the biggest waste in the world that will get you NOWHERE fast. They also have Alonon for teens
You can't do much. Sorry to be blunt but he's your sister's problem for as long as she's willing to put up with him. If he doesn't want help then he won't accept it, and your well meaning attempts will just be seen as interference. Just try and do things with your sister in law and your nephews that don't include him. The only thing you can do is limit alcohol if he comes round to yours, or possibly tell him he's not welcome at yours, but then you risk causing a rift.
ignore him.
Sorry, but not your problem and you should stay out of it unless your brother asks you for help. Any intevention on your part will only cause grief
I have to agree with what Poison says. You can't do anything, It is your sister-in-laws decision if she wants to live with it. You can say no alcohol in your home, but that would be it. The guy would only accept help if and when he wants it. And sometimes that means hitting rock bottom, often with an alcoholic even that is not enough. Just be there for the family if they need it.
Report them to Social Services if they are a bad influence on their kids and offer to take care of the kids yourself. If your sister has been drinking for 8 yrs it sounds like she too is a waste of space.



In this case the children are priority and you're right to be worried. Drunks are often neglectful, abusive, violent and children shouldn't have to live with either of them
stay out of it but if you are braver than me, tell you sister to take her children and leave because if he can't see the damage he is inflicting on his family after all this time, he will never change
Buy him a t-shirt to show him what people think of his drinking habits. See the link...
It is unfortunate that alcoholism affects more than just the alcoholic. If he is lucky he will hit his bottom and find his way to Alcoholics Anonymous just like I did 20 months ago. Your sister will have find her own way as well, it would be good for her and the boys to go to Al-Anon. The best you can do is pray for them and be a positive influence on your nephews and leading by example. Good luck and I will say a prayer for you and your family.

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