Tuesday, November 16, 2010

How do adults deal with an alcoholic parent?

I am 23 years old and live 1,500 miles away from my mother, who is an alcoholic. She just spent Christmas with me and drank every night while she was with me. She would get verbally vicious and act very outlandish. The next morning she would not remember what she said or did. I am worried about her and do not know what to do. Thanks!How do adults deal with an alcoholic parent?
She doesn't get it yet because she's not in recovery. She is clueless to the extent of the problem, and even though she may be aware of some negative effects, she probably has convinced herself that drinking isn't much of a choice - it's the only thing that makes her feel good and normal, instead of like crap when she doesn't drink. She might feel like crap anyway, but at least she can escape it once in awhile with booze. Anyone who wants to take that away from her, in her mind, also wants her to feel bad. Alcoholics don't respond well to those they think want them to ';feel bad.'; It's all part of the delusion of addiction.

I'd say your best bet is a good intervention. You can get some good ideas if you watch the show ';Intervention'; on A%26amp;E.

Good luck. Untreated alcoholism is fatal.How do adults deal with an alcoholic parent?
Maybe tell her alcohol is no way to get rid of problems or an escape from the real world. Once the fuzziness is gone from your drunked state, the pain and issues of life always come back too. Take it from someone who knows, this is no way for either of you to live. I say either because your her family, do what's right even if the cost are high. She will forgive herself, if you forgive her.

good luck,


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